He left her for another woman...SMH

Perception. Here's a concept.

We all heard this or something like this before.

"How could you do that to me? I thought you were my friend? Why didn't you listen to me? Why did you lie to me? Why would you cheat on me? Why did you have to break my heart? Why do you want to hurt me? Why did you say it like that?"

I could go on and on with this.

While I was on the phone with this person, she was telling me how hurt she was that her husband of almost 30 years left her with 4 kids to go with another woman and take care of her and her kid... She didn't stop one minute talking about all the memories, plans, projects that she had for them. How they would grow old together. And because they we're a few of years away from retirement, how they would travel and see the world.

When he left, she promised herself that she would remain strong for her and her kids. She didn't even try to get him back. Even if, she still cries herself to sleep every night. It's been 5 years now. She's retirering next year.

Now, that same woman, for whom he left her for, is making her life miserable. Calling her. Sending bad, disgusting things to her door, to her life...SMH...

Before we hung up the phone, the last thing she said was: " For all my life, I've tried to live by Gods teaching. Never hurting no one. Took care of my home, my husband and my kids. I just don't understand why anyone would want to hurt me?

The big question. WHY would anyone want to hurt you? Really why?

It's simple. In their freaking mind they think that you've hurt them too!!!!

The Bitch (the other woman), is not having a good time. Because the A**hole (the husband) won't commit to her. In the Bitch's mind, she thinks that the Wife is the reason why her relationship to the A**hole is not working! Go figure! Mind you, the Wife and the A**hole are still married! So the Bitch is making the Wife's life miserable.

Perception.

An accident that happened at corner street, will not be described exactly the same way by the witnesses. Everybody has their own perception of the accident.

That's life. Everybody has their own perception of it. Of things. You may think you didn't do anything wrong but the someone you "wronged", will not see it the same way. If everyone would take the time to acknowlegde that we may not have the same perceptions, things would be less difficult. As we don't take our inspirations, decisions from the same pool of values; We are all different; We all don't see or process things the same way.

Who's right? Who's wrong? Who knows!

Perceptions. We all have them. Let's not be victims of them.

Please kick me when I'm down, Please!!!!

I have a total lack of inspiration... What to do? Most of the time, I get inspired by shit that happens to me. I guess I'm going through a boring phase. An uninspired phase. A "what the heck is wrong with everybody" phase.... But mind you, something "funny" did happen. This situation really came by surprise. Really surprise? Nah, by now I've learned to expect the unexpected. But shocking nonetheless. I didn't know that kicking someone when they're down was still " à la mode". How are you going to be, sooo not understanding of what someone is going through???

But I did notice something. When all is not well, people WILL stay away. I guess it's because they are reminded that not all is not good with them too. Or they just don't want to be bothered. I heard something one day that kind of shaped my way of relating to things, to people. Someone was asked "Why are your problems bigger than anyone else" and she replied "Because they're mine". Wow, an eye opening moment it was for me. And because they're "mine" and not "theirs”, people will stay away. But If you buy a new car, oh they will call. You know in case they might need a ride someday. And of course they want to know all the money details... Now if you win the lottery you know you won't be able to get rid of them. You may even gain new family !

If you are going through a tough time, you will be alone, most of the time. You will have that one person or two, among all those people you call “friend” that will stick by you no matter what. When all is good, don’t forget to downgrade their asses down to “acquaintance”. And feel free to add levels: acquaintance level 1, acquaintance level 2 and 3. (level 3: You don’t want to get there!!)

If everything is good, you will be surrounded. People will live vicariously through you. But then you will have to find out who’s in for the real deal. Not easy. The devil comes in many faces. Sometimes he’s cute and sexy as hell...

So, there it is. Breathe. Just take it in...